with that I start a new chapter in my life, I have opened up a store on Cafe Press: called High Hopes Cafe; was going to name it Cafe' Deviante' but thought that might be better for later ;0
there is nothing in it right now, just a few lines of code and description;
there is a deep learning curve, of setting up items, graphis, and other things; the pages are HTML so there is the aspect of web design involved, though I think they have tried to minimize that; but on the whole it is going to be a while before I am past the novice stage, and into producing quantity items for sale;
the other aspect is that Spring and Summer are coming, and it is getting warm and sunny; who wants to spend their summer in the basement, away from the sun; done enough of that this past winter; so I have been looking around at getting a laptop that I bought off of my son repaired; monedtarily that is going to be about as expensive as buying a new one, perhaps more; so I have tried an alternative; I have an old Mac PowerBook c. 1999, running OS X Panther; and I have been having the job and joy of finding out that the OS and the programs that it supports are out of date for accessing Cafe Press; it is a miracle that it is allowing me to type this into the post editor; but it is, and for that I am grateful; it even allows me to check my mail, so won't complain; as for manipulating graphics; well, I am not going to push it too far ;-0
just found that I can log into Facebook, but again no joy with Cafe Press yet!!! well, not perfect, but perhaps there is hope for some limited use; get me out of the dungeon LOL will report later with the address of the store and how I am doing getting products for sale ;) oh, btw, I have purchased 12 months time for the store; cost 80 dollars Canadian;
hmmmm just noticed I don't have the ability to upload photos here or any of the other extras; like I said, LIMITED!!!
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Monday, February 22, 2010
A His-Story and Her-Story Ramble
The English School System is a complex subject, but in history studies, they begin with the invasion of the Romans in 43BC... having read, read, re-read 4 or 5 times in the past 6 months, Frances Pryor's books, Seahenge and Britain BC, I am amazed that it is left until college or university to teach people about the wealth of information that is there about the roots of British Culture and history... from the Earliest Stone age 400,000 years ago to the Bronze and Iron Ages... the British Museum has of it's displays, 2% in total for pre 43BC... that is like having 98% represent 0.004% of the time that man has been in these islands... a serious error I believe...
Pre-history is so much more important and rich than that... it was when the British Cultural Roots were being formed, something the Romans didn't create, they only tried to eradicate it, but ended up adding to it... even the roots of Camelot may be in the Bronze Age, with the sword from the stone being paralleled in the creation of swords through bronze casting... they didn't beat the metal like we do Iron, but they cast it in Clay Moulds... breaking the mould when it was cooled and the sword would come out of the stone, a one of a kind, to be named, having a personality of it's own... and the lady of the lake... well, the religion back then was one of appeasement of the ancestors and the spirits, by... wait for it-------------------placing offerings in the lakes and bogs... and many a sword and axe has been found in old lake and bog sites, along with other offerings...
I don't think that this takes away from the story, but adds to it... a recent show on a so called King of Stonehenge brought a real surprise... the person was not British, but from the area of Switzerland... he had been buried with very rich grave goods for the time... and as was pointed out, only the wealthy or strong were given burials, the common people ended up with probably much less... a cremation at best, the worst doesn't bear thinking about... and this King? They think was current when Stonehenge was being turned from wood to stone, the very beginning of the huge construction projects that would take millennium, and ultimately would end with what we see today... 4000 years ago... before bronze was first smelted, but when Gold was...
And before I forget, Stonehenge's ceremonial/special place in religion began almost 9,000 years ago... with 4 large poles being placed at separate times in the ground... which co-insides with another find in the year 2000 by Dr Clive Waddington... the first BRITISH house... he found the earliest one at the very edge of the end of the last Ice Age, around 10,000 years ago... and it is the typical British Neolithic round house... not square corners, like on the continent, but round... which begs the question, why... other than they do well in very windy weather, from experimental reconstructions... one in the South East, did well in the face of a near hurricane back in the 80's, when modern buildings were being torn apart...
Oh, and before I forget, the 10,000 year old house was found in Scotland at Howick ;) and Britain at the time, was still connected to the continent by a land bridge which was inhabited by stone age family groups, from research done by a new branch of archaeology in the North Sea, underwater archaeology... which owes some of it's beginnings from the North Sea Oil and Gas Fields research...
And speaking of ICE AGES and WARMING TRENDS... the end of the last major period of ice did not end on a sharp note... no indeed... it warmed up for a bit, though cooler than today, then dipped right back down, before warming up in what archaeologists think was a 50 year period, about 3 generations, to warmer than it is today... before settling down again, and taking another 1300 years for the biggest part of the land bridge to be flooded...
Now I don't want to be taken as a nay-sayer about climate change... whatever the cause, be it human intervention or 'natural?' it doesn't matter, we face the same crises as our ancestors, with the rising of the waters, and flooding that created the North Sea... btw I can only imagine what they must have been thinking when they looked North to the Sea and saw the storms and the waters flooding their camps and settlements... I wonder if that is where they got their religious respect for water, and the offerings they made... one thing I do know... when it came to religion, it was like their version of the Credit Card, they never left home without it... it was always with them in every little detail of their lives... little wonder... and after the effect the flooding has had on England in 2007 and the major snow storms this year, and the lack of snow here in Canada, will we change as well????
Pre-history is so much more important and rich than that... it was when the British Cultural Roots were being formed, something the Romans didn't create, they only tried to eradicate it, but ended up adding to it... even the roots of Camelot may be in the Bronze Age, with the sword from the stone being paralleled in the creation of swords through bronze casting... they didn't beat the metal like we do Iron, but they cast it in Clay Moulds... breaking the mould when it was cooled and the sword would come out of the stone, a one of a kind, to be named, having a personality of it's own... and the lady of the lake... well, the religion back then was one of appeasement of the ancestors and the spirits, by... wait for it-------------------placing offerings in the lakes and bogs... and many a sword and axe has been found in old lake and bog sites, along with other offerings...
I don't think that this takes away from the story, but adds to it... a recent show on a so called King of Stonehenge brought a real surprise... the person was not British, but from the area of Switzerland... he had been buried with very rich grave goods for the time... and as was pointed out, only the wealthy or strong were given burials, the common people ended up with probably much less... a cremation at best, the worst doesn't bear thinking about... and this King? They think was current when Stonehenge was being turned from wood to stone, the very beginning of the huge construction projects that would take millennium, and ultimately would end with what we see today... 4000 years ago... before bronze was first smelted, but when Gold was...
And before I forget, Stonehenge's ceremonial/special place in religion began almost 9,000 years ago... with 4 large poles being placed at separate times in the ground... which co-insides with another find in the year 2000 by Dr Clive Waddington... the first BRITISH house... he found the earliest one at the very edge of the end of the last Ice Age, around 10,000 years ago... and it is the typical British Neolithic round house... not square corners, like on the continent, but round... which begs the question, why... other than they do well in very windy weather, from experimental reconstructions... one in the South East, did well in the face of a near hurricane back in the 80's, when modern buildings were being torn apart...
Oh, and before I forget, the 10,000 year old house was found in Scotland at Howick ;) and Britain at the time, was still connected to the continent by a land bridge which was inhabited by stone age family groups, from research done by a new branch of archaeology in the North Sea, underwater archaeology... which owes some of it's beginnings from the North Sea Oil and Gas Fields research...
And speaking of ICE AGES and WARMING TRENDS... the end of the last major period of ice did not end on a sharp note... no indeed... it warmed up for a bit, though cooler than today, then dipped right back down, before warming up in what archaeologists think was a 50 year period, about 3 generations, to warmer than it is today... before settling down again, and taking another 1300 years for the biggest part of the land bridge to be flooded...
Now I don't want to be taken as a nay-sayer about climate change... whatever the cause, be it human intervention or 'natural?' it doesn't matter, we face the same crises as our ancestors, with the rising of the waters, and flooding that created the North Sea... btw I can only imagine what they must have been thinking when they looked North to the Sea and saw the storms and the waters flooding their camps and settlements... I wonder if that is where they got their religious respect for water, and the offerings they made... one thing I do know... when it came to religion, it was like their version of the Credit Card, they never left home without it... it was always with them in every little detail of their lives... little wonder... and after the effect the flooding has had on England in 2007 and the major snow storms this year, and the lack of snow here in Canada, will we change as well????
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Where Has Our Moral Compass Gone
I struggled whether to post this here or on the Political blog; however this crosses political boundaries to encompass our whole society;
Recent events have brought me to the conclusion that the opponents of bringing the Constitution home to Canada, and re-writing our Rights and Freedoms, were right; we have become a litigious nation, afraid to be anything but either politically correct or not step beyond the confines the rules that govern our behaviour in the work place or in public;
First on the list, is the death by suicide of a young mentally troubled woman, who had been bounced from one holding facility, to another, watched by 7 guards, none of whom intervened because it is alleged that it was against the work rules; no one had the moral fortitude to go against the rules and 'DO THE RIGHT THING'!!
Second a Police officer stopped a speeding motorist, who happened to be a heart specialist, on his way to an emergency at a local hospital; instead of giving all assistance the police office spent 10 minutes, writing a ticket; and we have all seen videos of how slowly the police move in those circumstances; taking more time than is necessary to go to the washroom; the officer's superior says that the giving of assistance to emergency vehicles is now not allowed due to potential insurance liability; so, the officers that gave assistance (by escorting the cabs) to my mother and several other people, who had missed their train after arriving in Canada by boat, at Quebec City, in 1953, would today have been on the carpet for misconduct;
Third, the Scanner debate or NON-debate as you will, regarding the scanning in airports of young people under the age of 18; what is the problem with people that they cannot understand the difference between pornography and normal exhibitions of the human body; Pornography is the sexualization of the human body, ie portraying it in sexually explicit ways that serve to depict sexual acts; scanning of human figures standing straight is not pornography; if it is, then a few thousand years of art history needs to be put behind closed doors to protect the public, and the taking of pictures at naturist /nudist camps and nude / topless beaches has to be governed as illegal and anyone taking such pictures arrested for producing pornography; I'll only mention in passing the 'possible' hoard of pictures taken by parents of their children in their Birthday Suits, as cute images of growing up;
Fourth, now our Government in Ottawa has decided to cover it's Cowardliness in the face of possible accusations of wrong doing, to run and hide, hoping that the public will grow weary or be distracted by other events of the day; so that in 3 months Parliament can re-convene and the wrong doing can be swept under the carpet; the problem for the Government is, that there are more problems coming, so what happens then, will the sitting be cut short again, to 'recalibrate' again; the Government cannot run every time it fears opposition; discussion and openness is what our Parliamentary Democracy is based on;
fifth, the Government again has tried to derail an examination of it's care of Native Canadian children on reserves, by appealing on the grounds that they don't believe the venue had the proper authority to examine the issue; by April the Government will have delayed the meetings, by almost a year, and making any effective changes to the lives of the children affected, delayed as well; where is the morality in that; more children today are in the care of Social Services than at any time during the days of when forced integration of Native Children took them off the reserves;
the debate of how to help the children and Native Canadians on Reserves has been an ongoing one for decades, and no one is coming to any sustainable conclusions; just one more study after another; all pigeon holed and left to gather dust; while the Indian Affairs Department, to give it it's old name, just twiddles it's thumbs and does nothing and the Governments of the the day, just ignore the issues, because these people do not have enough political clout to warrant paying attention to; and when they do stand up and fight for their rights, the Governments of the day fight back, instead of dealing with the issues; where is the MORALITY IN THAT!!! WE ARE CANADA, and if we can pour hundreds of millions of dollars into Afghanistan, half a world away and a cultural divide beyond that, why can't we see to it that the people in this country that are as close to us as brothers and sisters are not give an equally fair shake!!
these are not the only examples, I should mention the memorial put up to the victim of an alleged honour killing, in South Western Ontario, and the controversy in the community over the appropriateness of this memorial gesture to a sad death; or the politicizing of a memorial page on Facebook to a young child that recently died put up by it's parents; these are not isolated cases;
we have to find our moral compass again, otherwise cases like these will only multiply and people will become inured to the constant barrage and just give up trying; is this the way The Just Society of the 70's envisaged our country growing??? I for one who grew up in the 50's and 60's don't believe so; come on Canada, lets get it back on track;
Recent events have brought me to the conclusion that the opponents of bringing the Constitution home to Canada, and re-writing our Rights and Freedoms, were right; we have become a litigious nation, afraid to be anything but either politically correct or not step beyond the confines the rules that govern our behaviour in the work place or in public;
First on the list, is the death by suicide of a young mentally troubled woman, who had been bounced from one holding facility, to another, watched by 7 guards, none of whom intervened because it is alleged that it was against the work rules; no one had the moral fortitude to go against the rules and 'DO THE RIGHT THING'!!
Second a Police officer stopped a speeding motorist, who happened to be a heart specialist, on his way to an emergency at a local hospital; instead of giving all assistance the police office spent 10 minutes, writing a ticket; and we have all seen videos of how slowly the police move in those circumstances; taking more time than is necessary to go to the washroom; the officer's superior says that the giving of assistance to emergency vehicles is now not allowed due to potential insurance liability; so, the officers that gave assistance (by escorting the cabs) to my mother and several other people, who had missed their train after arriving in Canada by boat, at Quebec City, in 1953, would today have been on the carpet for misconduct;
Third, the Scanner debate or NON-debate as you will, regarding the scanning in airports of young people under the age of 18; what is the problem with people that they cannot understand the difference between pornography and normal exhibitions of the human body; Pornography is the sexualization of the human body, ie portraying it in sexually explicit ways that serve to depict sexual acts; scanning of human figures standing straight is not pornography; if it is, then a few thousand years of art history needs to be put behind closed doors to protect the public, and the taking of pictures at naturist /nudist camps and nude / topless beaches has to be governed as illegal and anyone taking such pictures arrested for producing pornography; I'll only mention in passing the 'possible' hoard of pictures taken by parents of their children in their Birthday Suits, as cute images of growing up;
Fourth, now our Government in Ottawa has decided to cover it's Cowardliness in the face of possible accusations of wrong doing, to run and hide, hoping that the public will grow weary or be distracted by other events of the day; so that in 3 months Parliament can re-convene and the wrong doing can be swept under the carpet; the problem for the Government is, that there are more problems coming, so what happens then, will the sitting be cut short again, to 'recalibrate' again; the Government cannot run every time it fears opposition; discussion and openness is what our Parliamentary Democracy is based on;
fifth, the Government again has tried to derail an examination of it's care of Native Canadian children on reserves, by appealing on the grounds that they don't believe the venue had the proper authority to examine the issue; by April the Government will have delayed the meetings, by almost a year, and making any effective changes to the lives of the children affected, delayed as well; where is the morality in that; more children today are in the care of Social Services than at any time during the days of when forced integration of Native Children took them off the reserves;
the debate of how to help the children and Native Canadians on Reserves has been an ongoing one for decades, and no one is coming to any sustainable conclusions; just one more study after another; all pigeon holed and left to gather dust; while the Indian Affairs Department, to give it it's old name, just twiddles it's thumbs and does nothing and the Governments of the the day, just ignore the issues, because these people do not have enough political clout to warrant paying attention to; and when they do stand up and fight for their rights, the Governments of the day fight back, instead of dealing with the issues; where is the MORALITY IN THAT!!! WE ARE CANADA, and if we can pour hundreds of millions of dollars into Afghanistan, half a world away and a cultural divide beyond that, why can't we see to it that the people in this country that are as close to us as brothers and sisters are not give an equally fair shake!!
these are not the only examples, I should mention the memorial put up to the victim of an alleged honour killing, in South Western Ontario, and the controversy in the community over the appropriateness of this memorial gesture to a sad death; or the politicizing of a memorial page on Facebook to a young child that recently died put up by it's parents; these are not isolated cases;
we have to find our moral compass again, otherwise cases like these will only multiply and people will become inured to the constant barrage and just give up trying; is this the way The Just Society of the 70's envisaged our country growing??? I for one who grew up in the 50's and 60's don't believe so; come on Canada, lets get it back on track;
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
you think you understand them, then if falls apart
WOMEN!! ;0
well, I have signed off on the second to last person from POF; she is not interested in a friendship or dating at my physical/fiscal limits; so now it is JY and I that are left; and we will see what happens; it is what it is, and why try to understand; well because I am a MAN!! and that is what men do LOL, so after a pit (that was a typing error, but leaving it ;) of pain and wound licking, going to try to sort out what happened and learn from it; won't happen in a blog; that would be tooooooooooo easy; no, for this will get the Cabin set up and furniture built and somewhere inbetween I will think on this corrundum and try to make sense of it; lots to keep me busy, without a woman in my life as help mate or 'SHE' WHO MUST BE OBEYED; will have time to re read Rumple of the Old Bailey ;0 perhaps find some more of his work; listen to my music and cultivate being an eccentric ;-0 started my winter beard, and by Christmas should look a lot like Father Christmas; will get photos and post ;0, no holly or Ivy, but will work out something from the local co-op!! my daughter in England is coming home for Christmas, so will surprise her LOL!!
Projects for Nesting Fall 2009
downsize, Downsize, DOWNSIZE!!
Projects done To work on next In between NEXT and LATER To be do later:Time & $ permits
Bedsitter
1) insulate the NW corner of the bed sitting room
2) move the book shelves from work room into the NW Corner
3) remove Mark’s stuff from under the bed, to Work room
4) rebuilt bed into bed/sofa
5) move the file cabinets into Work room
6) moved extra bookcase next to Gas Meter, moved to kitchen
7) move wash stand into Bed Sitter
8) Black Ink for Printer
9) sorted out books & papers, to keep, only enough to fit in the shelf Dad built
10) set up 1.86ghz computer and stereo equipment as entertainment centre
11) close in door way; do a Dutch door arrangement
12) build low Clothes Rack for Bed Sitter
13) Door Bell for side door
14) Find one place to keep photos, and leave them there to organize / store
15) See if son can take some of his stuff
16) build new Computer/Secretary’s Desk w/ room for dual monitors for 2.2ghz computer
17) pass through; shrink with 2x4” & insert frame for canvas and wall board
18) sort old painting for keeping or letting the kids take
19) Finish Bed/Sofa: mattress and folding back board
20) Modest Wine Cellar; Bought – South African, Chilean, Canadian make list; Home Made brews, Ginger Beer, Apple Cider begin in late October; 1 gallon batches; maximum number of bottles, 24-30
21) investigate more memory & additional video cards; larger LED Screen (36-48”) for Ent. Centre
22) build desk for Entertainment Centre w/imitation Fireplace,
23) set up 20 gallon Aquarium for fish in bed sitter (neon tropical fish)
24) make one sample home made Solar Electric Panel, see if it really will work
Kitchen
1) Moved the storage units Microwave stand, further into the dinning area
2) Put the kitchen back into working order, do dishes
3) Clear the dinning area of extra stuff,
4) Get mop and wash floor in Kitchen/Dining area
5) Sort out the bits and pieces of wood left from projects; do dump run
6) Extend the counter space 28” with a [movable?] counter
7) New taps for sink; Paint the cupboards under the counter
8) Level Thomas’ old wall unit & stove;
9) Light in dinning area
10) Find some place else to hang produce baskets
11) move the exercise equipment out
12) Put legs on table top in closet
13) Paint canvas for closing in closet area; hanging curtain arrangement
14) close in the kitchen cupboards with swing doors
15) new tile for the kitchen floor; re paint the walls
Work room
1) sort tools, computer equipment/extras and crafting equipment; set up work spaces
2) clean up and down size unnecessary clutter, make room to work
3) fix the large Work Mate
well, I have signed off on the second to last person from POF; she is not interested in a friendship or dating at my physical/fiscal limits; so now it is JY and I that are left; and we will see what happens; it is what it is, and why try to understand; well because I am a MAN!! and that is what men do LOL, so after a pit (that was a typing error, but leaving it ;) of pain and wound licking, going to try to sort out what happened and learn from it; won't happen in a blog; that would be tooooooooooo easy; no, for this will get the Cabin set up and furniture built and somewhere inbetween I will think on this corrundum and try to make sense of it; lots to keep me busy, without a woman in my life as help mate or 'SHE' WHO MUST BE OBEYED; will have time to re read Rumple of the Old Bailey ;0 perhaps find some more of his work; listen to my music and cultivate being an eccentric ;-0 started my winter beard, and by Christmas should look a lot like Father Christmas; will get photos and post ;0, no holly or Ivy, but will work out something from the local co-op!! my daughter in England is coming home for Christmas, so will surprise her LOL!!
Projects for Nesting Fall 2009
downsize, Downsize, DOWNSIZE!!
Projects done To work on next In between NEXT and LATER To be do later:Time & $ permits
Bedsitter
1) insulate the NW corner of the bed sitting room
2) move the book shelves from work room into the NW Corner
3) remove Mark’s stuff from under the bed, to Work room
4) rebuilt bed into bed/sofa
5) move the file cabinets into Work room
6) moved extra bookcase next to Gas Meter, moved to kitchen
7) move wash stand into Bed Sitter
8) Black Ink for Printer
9) sorted out books & papers, to keep, only enough to fit in the shelf Dad built
10) set up 1.86ghz computer and stereo equipment as entertainment centre
11) close in door way; do a Dutch door arrangement
12) build low Clothes Rack for Bed Sitter
13) Door Bell for side door
14) Find one place to keep photos, and leave them there to organize / store
15) See if son can take some of his stuff
16) build new Computer/Secretary’s Desk w/ room for dual monitors for 2.2ghz computer
17) pass through; shrink with 2x4” & insert frame for canvas and wall board
18) sort old painting for keeping or letting the kids take
19) Finish Bed/Sofa: mattress and folding back board
20) Modest Wine Cellar; Bought – South African, Chilean, Canadian make list; Home Made brews, Ginger Beer, Apple Cider begin in late October; 1 gallon batches; maximum number of bottles, 24-30
21) investigate more memory & additional video cards; larger LED Screen (36-48”) for Ent. Centre
22) build desk for Entertainment Centre w/imitation Fireplace,
23) set up 20 gallon Aquarium for fish in bed sitter (neon tropical fish)
24) make one sample home made Solar Electric Panel, see if it really will work
Kitchen
1) Moved the storage units Microwave stand, further into the dinning area
2) Put the kitchen back into working order, do dishes
3) Clear the dinning area of extra stuff,
4) Get mop and wash floor in Kitchen/Dining area
5) Sort out the bits and pieces of wood left from projects; do dump run
6) Extend the counter space 28” with a [movable?] counter
7) New taps for sink; Paint the cupboards under the counter
8) Level Thomas’ old wall unit & stove;
9) Light in dinning area
10) Find some place else to hang produce baskets
11) move the exercise equipment out
12) Put legs on table top in closet
13) Paint canvas for closing in closet area; hanging curtain arrangement
14) close in the kitchen cupboards with swing doors
15) new tile for the kitchen floor; re paint the walls
Work room
1) sort tools, computer equipment/extras and crafting equipment; set up work spaces
2) clean up and down size unnecessary clutter, make room to work
3) fix the large Work Mate
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Nesting instincts and male / female relationships
I have become aware of a disturbing trend in my thinking lately, and I am not sure if it is good or bad. A few weeks ago, I met a woman on Plenty of Fish, quite by chance; neither of us had any inclination at that time to start a e-mail relationship; she clicked on my photo by accident, and I noticed, and sent her this note:
Hi, is there any reason to believe that you might be waiting for me to contact you first; or am I way out of line and you wish they would put a delete button on visits to other profiles, so you could remove your tracks ;-) Cheers and thanks for visiting;
her reply was:
Hello, I do believe there is a way of having settings cover one's tracks! But, I haven't bothered to figure it out. And why? Saying hello, even if by accident, rather than by design, isn't a bad thing.Some people seem to forget, there are real human beings behind these profiles. ... well ... behind MOST of these profiles. Lol....To honestly answer your question, no, I wasn't waiting to hear from you - as I don't have a problem with initiating the first email. But, it's nice to hear from you - you full of mischief kid, you! (I had posted a picture of myself from first days in Canada) Where did you come from? I came over here from England, but at a later age. All the best to you
Well to say the least we spent the next 11 or so hours chatting back and forth through the night; it was an astounding discovery that we could chat to each other and not want to end it; well, I SURE DIDN'T ;0 and we had 3 more nights over the last couple of weeks similarily getting to know each other; and like the song says, There ain't no sunshine when she's gone!! All from a chance encounter;
But that is not the behaviour that I am concerned about; it is this need to clean up the Hermitage, and RENOVATE!!! details aren't necessary, but I have spent over 100 dollars and expect to spend more in the next week fixing this place up; FOR A WOMAN WHO HAS NOT COMMITTED TO EVEN MEETING ME!!
THAT is the behaviour I am concerned about; I realized it the day after our first night of chat; I began washing down the stairs of cat fur, the kitchen floor and THEN cleaned out the Fridge and started dusting; ALL THE SAME DAY!!! THIS IS NOT NORMAL BACHELOR BEHAVIOUR!!!
What is happening here; I called it, that first day, THE MALE NESTING INSTINCT!!! I now have a list of projects done, and to do that would choke a man half my age, but I am looking forward to tackling them and am gratified at the changes around THE OLD CABIN!! my ultimate concern, is, while all these changes are good, and ones that I SHOULD have made years ago, will a woman start making changes to ME; ie my clothes, my hair, MY BEARD!!! What will she expect!!
Stay tuned for the next terrifying installment, of Schneewolfe & the Sheewolfe!!!
Friday, October 2, 2009
what a difference a day/night makes
more online dating; met a woman online, sweet looking, she dropped by my profile to take a peek; and I dropped her a note asking if she were going to send me a note or not; well, 2 days later we end up spending the night online trading e-mails; and by morning, I am a landed fish, hook firmly set, and ready to reel in, LOL; but by evening, with no further e-mails, puzzled by a short appearance , with no response to an e-mail sent earlier, and that is the last she has been online to date: September 29th, at 1:09am in the night; and I am wriggling free of the hook;
I have noticed that women in my experience, who live close by, say within 20-30 miles are less likely to feel comfortable committing to an online relationship that MIGHT lead to a meeting, than say women who live 75 to 100+ miles away; strange as it seems, distance seems to make a person feel safer; and from my conversations with women, this holds true for men as well; now, my Chemistry Exam sees me as being rather insecure about my social skills, and so I am less likely to feel comfortable in social situations; Insecure and Intimidated by the women with lots of social skills and confidence; but that is where the woman in the above situation seems to be different, while within that 20mile radius, she is being less confident than her Chemistry Exam states she should be, and I am more confident;
this is an equation that does not add up; either the Chemistry Exams are wrong, which I highly doubt, as I know I am no sauve, man about town in an Armani suit, who prefers Harbour Castle to Montannas; just a plain ordinary guy, who detests suits and is comfortable in jeans and leather coat, who you will find at Montannas, Applebees or Jack Astors at best, or over at the MacDonald's playground with my grandson and daughter; or there is something at play here that does not come across in the real world;
my own sense is that there have been so many articles on bad relationships and bad things happening to people who go on line to meet, compared to articles that tout the benefits and successes from going online, that people, whether men or women, run scared at the least sense of things moving beyond their control or safe speed; the old 'Duck, and Cover' reaction to an unknown, but percieved threat, whether real or imagined;
so here I am, just waiting, on the cusp of closing down the profile, realizing that 1) the odds of finding a local woman to meet for friendship, under my present fiscal and physical conditions, is slim to nil, and 2) I have met 3 wonderfully interesting women within 125 miles that are good online friends; and I might meet under better circumstances "when spring breaks through", ala Dr Zhivago ;) and 3) that the woman that ducked, may yet come back online with an explanations, and she may make it 4, but I am doubting now will be anything more than a friend;
such is the online dating world, after just 2 short months;
I have noticed that women in my experience, who live close by, say within 20-30 miles are less likely to feel comfortable committing to an online relationship that MIGHT lead to a meeting, than say women who live 75 to 100+ miles away; strange as it seems, distance seems to make a person feel safer; and from my conversations with women, this holds true for men as well; now, my Chemistry Exam sees me as being rather insecure about my social skills, and so I am less likely to feel comfortable in social situations; Insecure and Intimidated by the women with lots of social skills and confidence; but that is where the woman in the above situation seems to be different, while within that 20mile radius, she is being less confident than her Chemistry Exam states she should be, and I am more confident;
this is an equation that does not add up; either the Chemistry Exams are wrong, which I highly doubt, as I know I am no sauve, man about town in an Armani suit, who prefers Harbour Castle to Montannas; just a plain ordinary guy, who detests suits and is comfortable in jeans and leather coat, who you will find at Montannas, Applebees or Jack Astors at best, or over at the MacDonald's playground with my grandson and daughter; or there is something at play here that does not come across in the real world;
my own sense is that there have been so many articles on bad relationships and bad things happening to people who go on line to meet, compared to articles that tout the benefits and successes from going online, that people, whether men or women, run scared at the least sense of things moving beyond their control or safe speed; the old 'Duck, and Cover' reaction to an unknown, but percieved threat, whether real or imagined;
so here I am, just waiting, on the cusp of closing down the profile, realizing that 1) the odds of finding a local woman to meet for friendship, under my present fiscal and physical conditions, is slim to nil, and 2) I have met 3 wonderfully interesting women within 125 miles that are good online friends; and I might meet under better circumstances "when spring breaks through", ala Dr Zhivago ;) and 3) that the woman that ducked, may yet come back online with an explanations, and she may make it 4, but I am doubting now will be anything more than a friend;
such is the online dating world, after just 2 short months;
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
the Difference a day makes
Aug 19, 2009, I was reading a profile, of a verrrrrrrry interesting lady, who, along with many others, would like a bike riding companion; I HAVE NEVER LEARNED TO RIDE A BIKE; so what did I do, asked my brother if I could borrow his to try out; BIG MISTAKE, VERRRRRRY BIG MISTAKE; within 5 minutes of getting on the bike, several times, I tipped over sideways and did in my bad leg;
oh, did I not tell you; Last February 9th, I was rushing to catch a bus, at 6:34am; it was dark and there were no street lights near to light up the driveway, and I headed, unerringly, without swerving left or right, straight for the only patch of slick ice on the whole BL__DY thing; hit it with my right leg, and twisted, my heavy back pack of books, pulling me down, and I landed on my knee, the patella bone; twisted the lower leg out to the outside of the leg, ripping the Quad muscle and punching the patella into my thigh; I tried to stand, but I was like those dolls with the sewn joints, and went down hard again; my first thought was, 'THIS CAN"T BE HAPPENING!!!' but it was, I worked my way back up the drive way, to where the car was; but that was it; I could see the front door, but not make it the 20-30 feet up the porch; it was then I remembered the cell phone my daughter had given me for my birthday, a month before; I called the house phone and got my brother and his son to help me in; they called 911 and I was soon on my way to the hospital; it took another 42 days before I saw an orthipedic surgeon and 2 days more before I was operated on; then 5 1/2 weeks in hospital, unable to use my leg, no weight must be put on it; then another 2 1/2 weeks at home, with same restrictions, before I was allowed to put weight on it; it was to say the least, STIFF AS A BOARD!!; that was May 6th, it took until Aug 18 before I could get enough strength in the muscles again, to lift myself up with it to mount the stairs even 1/2 normally; that is without shaking and using my arms to leaver myself up; then on the 19th of Aug, all of that progress was undid, for the sake of women I hadn't even met!!!! HOW DUMB IS THAT????
now 3 weeks after the accident, I am thankfully not having surgery again, but my knee is stiff again; like it was on May 6, and I am back to square one; but I KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT, so I am hopeful that in as little as 1 1/2 months I might be back to where I was;
why am I telling you all this; because if I can prevent one person from doing anything so damn fool hardy like this, then it will have been worth the agravation;
Good luck and God bless
Schnee
oh, did I not tell you; Last February 9th, I was rushing to catch a bus, at 6:34am; it was dark and there were no street lights near to light up the driveway, and I headed, unerringly, without swerving left or right, straight for the only patch of slick ice on the whole BL__DY thing; hit it with my right leg, and twisted, my heavy back pack of books, pulling me down, and I landed on my knee, the patella bone; twisted the lower leg out to the outside of the leg, ripping the Quad muscle and punching the patella into my thigh; I tried to stand, but I was like those dolls with the sewn joints, and went down hard again; my first thought was, 'THIS CAN"T BE HAPPENING!!!' but it was, I worked my way back up the drive way, to where the car was; but that was it; I could see the front door, but not make it the 20-30 feet up the porch; it was then I remembered the cell phone my daughter had given me for my birthday, a month before; I called the house phone and got my brother and his son to help me in; they called 911 and I was soon on my way to the hospital; it took another 42 days before I saw an orthipedic surgeon and 2 days more before I was operated on; then 5 1/2 weeks in hospital, unable to use my leg, no weight must be put on it; then another 2 1/2 weeks at home, with same restrictions, before I was allowed to put weight on it; it was to say the least, STIFF AS A BOARD!!; that was May 6th, it took until Aug 18 before I could get enough strength in the muscles again, to lift myself up with it to mount the stairs even 1/2 normally; that is without shaking and using my arms to leaver myself up; then on the 19th of Aug, all of that progress was undid, for the sake of women I hadn't even met!!!! HOW DUMB IS THAT????
now 3 weeks after the accident, I am thankfully not having surgery again, but my knee is stiff again; like it was on May 6, and I am back to square one; but I KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT, so I am hopeful that in as little as 1 1/2 months I might be back to where I was;
why am I telling you all this; because if I can prevent one person from doing anything so damn fool hardy like this, then it will have been worth the agravation;
Good luck and God bless
Schnee
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