you think you understand them, then if falls apart

WOMEN!! ;0

well, I have signed off on the second to last person from POF; she is not interested in a friendship or dating at my physical/fiscal limits; so now it is JY and I that are left; and we will see what happens; it is what it is, and why try to understand; well because I am a MAN!! and that is what men do LOL, so after a pit (that was a typing error, but leaving it ;) of pain and wound licking, going to try to sort out what happened and learn from it; won't happen in a blog; that would be tooooooooooo easy; no, for this will get the Cabin set up and furniture built and somewhere inbetween I will think on this corrundum and try to make sense of it; lots to keep me busy, without a woman in my life as help mate or 'SHE' WHO MUST BE OBEYED; will have time to re read Rumple of the Old Bailey ;0 perhaps find some more of his work; listen to my music and cultivate being an eccentric ;-0 started my winter beard, and by Christmas should look a lot like Father Christmas; will get photos and post ;0, no holly or Ivy, but will work out something from the local co-op!! my daughter in England is coming home for Christmas, so will surprise her LOL!!












Projects for Nesting Fall 2009



downsize, Downsize, DOWNSIZE!!


Projects done To work on next In between NEXT and LATER To be do later:Time & $ permits



Bedsitter

1) insulate the NW corner of the bed sitting room
2) move the book shelves from work room into the NW Corner
3) remove Mark’s stuff from under the bed, to Work room
4) rebuilt bed into bed/sofa
5) move the file cabinets into Work room
6) moved extra bookcase next to Gas Meter, moved to kitchen
7) move wash stand into Bed Sitter
8) Black Ink for Printer
9) sorted out books & papers, to keep, only enough to fit in the shelf Dad built
10) set up 1.86ghz computer and stereo equipment as entertainment centre
11) close in door way; do a Dutch door arrangement
12) build low Clothes Rack for Bed Sitter
13) Door Bell for side door
14) Find one place to keep photos, and leave them there to organize / store
15) See if son can take some of his stuff
16) build new Computer/Secretary’s Desk w/ room for dual monitors for 2.2ghz computer
17) pass through; shrink with 2x4” & insert frame for canvas and wall board
18) sort old painting for keeping or letting the kids take
19) Finish Bed/Sofa: mattress and folding back board
20) Modest Wine Cellar; Bought – South African, Chilean, Canadian make list; Home Made brews, Ginger Beer, Apple Cider begin in late October; 1 gallon batches; maximum number of bottles, 24-30
21) investigate more memory & additional video cards; larger LED Screen (36-48”) for Ent. Centre
22) build desk for Entertainment Centre w/imitation Fireplace,
23) set up 20 gallon Aquarium for fish in bed sitter (neon tropical fish)

24) make one sample home made Solar Electric Panel, see if it really will work

Kitchen

1) Moved the storage units Microwave stand, further into the dinning area
2) Put the kitchen back into working order, do dishes
3) Clear the dinning area of extra stuff,
4) Get mop and wash floor in Kitchen/Dining area
5) Sort out the bits and pieces of wood left from projects; do dump run
6) Extend the counter space 28” with a [movable?] counter
7) New taps for sink; Paint the cupboards under the counter
8) Level Thomas’ old wall unit & stove;
9) Light in dinning area
10) Find some place else to hang produce baskets
11) move the exercise equipment out
12) Put legs on table top in closet
13) Paint canvas for closing in closet area; hanging curtain arrangement
14) close in the kitchen cupboards with swing doors
15) new tile for the kitchen floor; re paint the walls

Work room

1) sort tools, computer equipment/extras and crafting equipment; set up work spaces
2) clean up and down size unnecessary clutter, make room to work
3) fix the large Work Mate

Nesting instincts and male / female relationships

I have become aware of a disturbing trend in my thinking lately, and I am not sure if it is good or bad. A few weeks ago, I met a woman on Plenty of Fish, quite by chance; neither of us had any inclination at that time to start a e-mail relationship; she clicked on my photo by accident, and I noticed, and sent her this note:

Hi, is there any reason to believe that you might be waiting for me to contact you first; or am I way out of line and you wish they would put a delete button on visits to other profiles, so you could remove your tracks ;-) Cheers and thanks for visiting;

her reply was:

Hello, I do believe there is a way of having settings cover one's tracks! But, I haven't bothered to figure it out. And why? Saying hello, even if by accident, rather than by design, isn't a bad thing.Some people seem to forget, there are real human beings behind these profiles. ... well ... behind MOST of these profiles. Lol....To honestly answer your question, no, I wasn't waiting to hear from you - as I don't have a problem with initiating the first email. But, it's nice to hear from you - you full of mischief kid, you! (I had posted a picture of myself from first days in Canada) Where did you come from? I came over here from England, but at a later age. All the best to you

Well to say the least we spent the next 11 or so hours chatting back and forth through the night; it was an astounding discovery that we could chat to each other and not want to end it; well, I SURE DIDN'T ;0 and we had 3 more nights over the last couple of weeks similarily getting to know each other; and like the song says, There ain't no sunshine when she's gone!! All from a chance encounter;

But that is not the behaviour that I am concerned about; it is this need to clean up the Hermitage, and RENOVATE!!! details aren't necessary, but I have spent over 100 dollars and expect to spend more in the next week fixing this place up; FOR A WOMAN WHO HAS NOT COMMITTED TO EVEN MEETING ME!!

THAT is the behaviour I am concerned about; I realized it the day after our first night of chat; I began washing down the stairs of cat fur, the kitchen floor and THEN cleaned out the Fridge and started dusting; ALL THE SAME DAY!!! THIS IS NOT NORMAL BACHELOR BEHAVIOUR!!!

What is happening here; I called it, that first day, THE MALE NESTING INSTINCT!!! I now have a list of projects done, and to do that would choke a man half my age, but I am looking forward to tackling them and am gratified at the changes around THE OLD CABIN!! my ultimate concern, is, while all these changes are good, and ones that I SHOULD have made years ago, will a woman start making changes to ME; ie my clothes, my hair, MY BEARD!!! What will she expect!!

Stay tuned for the next terrifying installment, of Schneewolfe & the Sheewolfe!!!

what a difference a day/night makes

more online dating; met a woman online, sweet looking, she dropped by my profile to take a peek; and I dropped her a note asking if she were going to send me a note or not; well, 2 days later we end up spending the night online trading e-mails; and by morning, I am a landed fish, hook firmly set, and ready to reel in, LOL; but by evening, with no further e-mails, puzzled by a short appearance , with no response to an e-mail sent earlier, and that is the last she has been online to date: September 29th, at 1:09am in the night; and I am wriggling free of the hook;

I have noticed that women in my experience, who live close by, say within 20-30 miles are less likely to feel comfortable committing to an online relationship that MIGHT lead to a meeting, than say women who live 75 to 100+ miles away; strange as it seems, distance seems to make a person feel safer; and from my conversations with women, this holds true for men as well; now, my Chemistry Exam sees me as being rather insecure about my social skills, and so I am less likely to feel comfortable in social situations; Insecure and Intimidated by the women with lots of social skills and confidence; but that is where the woman in the above situation seems to be different, while within that 20mile radius, she is being less confident than her Chemistry Exam states she should be, and I am more confident;

this is an equation that does not add up; either the Chemistry Exams are wrong, which I highly doubt, as I know I am no sauve, man about town in an Armani suit, who prefers Harbour Castle to Montannas; just a plain ordinary guy, who detests suits and is comfortable in jeans and leather coat, who you will find at Montannas, Applebees or Jack Astors at best, or over at the MacDonald's playground with my grandson and daughter; or there is something at play here that does not come across in the real world;

my own sense is that there have been so many articles on bad relationships and bad things happening to people who go on line to meet, compared to articles that tout the benefits and successes from going online, that people, whether men or women, run scared at the least sense of things moving beyond their control or safe speed; the old 'Duck, and Cover' reaction to an unknown, but percieved threat, whether real or imagined;

so here I am, just waiting, on the cusp of closing down the profile, realizing that 1) the odds of finding a local woman to meet for friendship, under my present fiscal and physical conditions, is slim to nil, and 2) I have met 3 wonderfully interesting women within 125 miles that are good online friends; and I might meet under better circumstances "when spring breaks through", ala Dr Zhivago ;) and 3) that the woman that ducked, may yet come back online with an explanations, and she may make it 4, but I am doubting now will be anything more than a friend;

such is the online dating world, after just 2 short months;